Motherhood is NOT the end of sexy! - 14 November 2011
After re-reading some of my earlier posts, I realize that I've taken a much 'softer' approach to my writing. Many of the first few entries dealt with romance even (gasp!) sex! And now, it seems that most everything I write about revolves around fashion, fashion icons and, of course, corsets. So, I have decided that I will continue to inject a little more 'spice' into my writing than I have been for the last several months, but in the mean time, my main concern has been "why the sudden change?"
Is it because I was pregnant for the last near 10 months? Does becoming a mom take away one's 'sexy'? I say: hell no! Not to toot my own horn, but I've noticed over the last 6 weeks (my beautiful boy is only 6 weeks old!) I have been receiving many compliments from strangers: "Wow! You look great for having just given birth!" and so on. My main point is this: I am still 30 pounds heavier than I was before I got pregnant, I have terribly dark circles under my eyes from the luxurious 3 hours of sleep per night that my baby permits me to get and when at home, the majority of my uber-casual clothes are decorated in spit-up. BUT! When I do go out with my husband and son, I like to take those opportunities to look my best. I get my hair done, put on my make-up and delight in wearing some of my favourite clothes that haven't fit me since January. I like to look sexy (but of course, still appropriate).
There is nothing that has ever left me feeling so feminine as becoming a mother. And there is absolutely no need to succumb to 'mom jeans' and ratty t-shirts just because its 'easy' or you 'have no time' to throw anything better together. There is ALWAYS time for you! And frankly, I don't care how controversial or 'degrading' some might consider my next statement to be, but it is also important to put the esthetic effort in for your partner. For some new mothers, sex is so very at the bottom of our list...but not for him it isn't. So, even if your body isn't 'ready', per say, to be intimate, at least give him something to look forward to for when you will feel ready. And who knows, maybe all of the compliments and lustful glances he'll be throwing your way will inspire you to feel ready a whole lot sooner.
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